Sunday, 1 December 2013

"Is Santa Real"

"Is Santa Real"? Its the moment we as parents dread....................................................................I can remember exactly the moment The Teenager asked me that very question.

She was 12, Mr DG was brushing his teeth and I was in the shower............................See, I told you I could remember.

The morning was going quite well until Mr DG suddenly realised that we had forgotten to give the Tooth Fairy a hand by subbing her £2 to go under The Whirlwinds pillow the previous night. "OH CRAP" he exclaimed rather loudly realising his mistake. "Quick" I replied "Do it now.....They are both still asleep"....................................WRONG............................The door burst open and in child number 1 (who had all her big teeth I might add so it really wasn't any of her business) came.................."WHAT DO YOU MEAN SHOVE IT UNDER THERE NOW"................................"ISN'T THE TOOTH FAIRY REAL"?.................................It was at this point we both pretended we hadn't heard her and carried on with our ablutions. "Mum....Dad........Isn't the Tooth Fairy Real" a little voice said.

I cannot begin to tell you how awful I felt as I watched her little eyes fill with sadness. To be fair I was super impressed that we had got all the way to 12 without any suspicion. Then before I had time to answer the dreaded question plopped out of her mouth, the one where you are never quite prepared............................................................"Does that mean Santa isn't real either"?????

There it was............................................Those words.............................Like a knife to the heart...................................This is it................................................................Choose your words carefully Mummy........................

I sat her down away from child number 2 who was luckily oblivious to the whole fiasco and looked her square in the eyes.................................................."OK, here's the thing" I began.
"Who wants cake for breakfast" Mr DG chipped in with hoping to avoid any confrontation.
"ME ME ME" screamed child 2
"Nobody is having cake for breakfast" I scolded "Right" I began again as child number 2 ran down the kitchen to see if he really could have cake for breakfast.

This is the speech that I gave her pretty much word for word.....................................

"Now that you are such a big girl there will be a lot of people that will tell you that Santa isn't real and that it is babyish to believe in him. I have never seen him but I know that on Christmas Eve something magical happens and a kind of calm blankets the whole world. People laugh and even the saddest of people cant help but smile on Christmas Eve. I don't care what people think as I believe in the magic of Christmas and know that something is definitely different on that day. If you don't want to think that Santa and all his traditions are real then that's fine but I will never stop believing.

Some day you will have your own children and I hope that all the fun things Daddy and I have done over those special days will stay with you and you too will carry on the magical things that happen."

I had tears in my eyes as I looked at my little girls innocence slipping away right in front of me, I truly believed everything I had told her and hoped in my heart that she would too.

"Thank God for that" was her reply
"I don't have to worry about some fat bloke breaking into our house anymore" she concluded. And with that she kissed me on the top of the head before whispering "Don't worry, I wont tell" with a wink and a swish of her dressing gown she was off down the stairs.

I sat there stunned, not sure how to react. Then............................................."MUUUMMMMMYYYY DADDY'S MADE CAKE FOR BREAKFAST"............................Good old Dad.

I am 43 years old now and still find a little present from Santa under my tree when everyone has gone on Christmas Day. I have no idea how it gets there but somehow it does and I look forward to it every year.

When you reach that stage where it isn't cool for your kids to believe anymore just remember this..............................Its up to you to keep the magic alive so that they will grow up with it in their hearts and pass it on.

Happy Christmas Everyone
xxxxxxx

38 comments:

  1. Such a FANTASTIC post!

    My eldest is 9 and we think he's on the brink of asking. He always has this funny look in his eyes whenever we're talking about Santa! I think you handled that beautifully. I love her comment afterwards though, made me lol! :P

    I too believe in that magic, my parents did their very best to keep it alive for us when we were growing up and I will do just the same for my two.

    Merry Christmas. xxx

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  2. Aw, that's just lovely. I'm so sad my boy is beginning to see through 'the magic'....not sure how to play it. A blog post will follow shortly! x

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    1. Thanks Suzanne, look forward to your post xxx

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  3. Last year my 11 year old daughter still clung on to her belief in Santa and I am so glad she did - this year I think it's slipped away but she will gamely carry on with the legend of Father Christmas to keep the magic for her little sister and they emailed their Christmas lists to Santa yesterday, together

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    1. That's so sweet, I remember my two posting their little letters too xxxx

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  4. Oh my god I'm crying and laughing in equal measure - best post I've read in months!

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  5. Oh that is so lovely. I definitely believe in the magic of Christmas! x

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  6. I have tears in my eyes too and you explained it beautifully. I have already gone through one batch of teens and survived and have a good few years ahead of enjoying the twins learn the Christmas spirit too.

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    1. Awww bless your heart, thankyou so much xxx

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  7. Oh. This is so lovely. My little boy 'gets' it properly this year and I love the fierceness of his belief. I'm going to enjoy that for as long as I can.

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  8. You are so right: Santa or no Santa there is somehting magical about Christmas. Strip away the commercial pressures, the family disagreements and your heart tingles with warmth, love and excitement.

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    1. I just love it......................I think I was Mrs Clause in a previous life xxx

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  9. I am dreading this day. Dreading it. I must learn your beautiful words though x

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    1. Bless you..............................Hang on to each year left xxx

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  10. fantastic! Can't believe you got to 12! I found out at 5 and was horrid and told my 3 year old sister. I say play with the magic cause at 37 I still believe too xx

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    1. Me too, thanks for reading my lovely xxxx

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  11. Love love love this post - I've never told my children that Father Christmas doesn't exist - they are now 22, 20 and 14 - I hope they still believe...

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  12. Love the way you explained it to her. Great post!

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  13. Love this.

    Bookmarked for a few years time

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  14. I'm crying too! I'm so with you, I really do believe in the magic of Christmas. It is so special xxx

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    1. Awww bless you . Good for you, keep believing xxx

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  15. I love this post so much! We try our best to keep the magic of Christmas in our house. my Hubby still tells our kids that Santa is real and they range in age from 13 - 23! It keeps the magic alive, thats for sure xxx

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    1. Excellent, Thankyou so much for reading my lovely xxxx

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  16. I have a very similar post, I think us parents can get into such a muddle with all this make believe stuff, but it is still fun while it lasts

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    1. It certainly is, thanks for reading xx

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  17. This is such a lovely post. I absolutely love your explanation to your daughter, and her response had me giggling! I believe in the magic of Christmas, too, and hope it's a long time before I'm having these chats with my little ones.

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    1. Thanks so much for you lovely comment. xxx

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  18. Bless you... It IS the dreaded question... Sounds like you handled it very well though! Thanks for linking up to #SavouringtheSeason

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  19. This is so sweet! I have tears in my eyes.
    My little girls are 9 and 11, and we still believe in the magic of Christmas.
    Thank you for putting it so eloquently. You give me hope that I can be so tender when the time is right.

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