Tuesday, 21 October 2014

Changes.

Changes are coming I can feel them like a small niggle in the back of my head, not always there but definitely present somewhere in the depths of my brain........................................................Her provisional driving license arrived today along with a letter from one of her chosen Universities, I looked at them for a long time before stuffing them in a drawer then taking them back out again only to once again throw them in the drawer and shut it tightly.

I want to do this to time..........................I want to grab time by the hair and stick it in a drawer until another day.

How can we be doing this, how can we actually be contemplating buying her a car and deciding where she is going to go to Uni..............................................................................................She is too young.................................No, she's not................................Yes she is...............................................

"Get a grip" is a statement I regularly tell myself, "pull yourself together you complete nelly" is another thing I will say whilst looking in the mirror.

I am either going to fall to pieces or embrace the whole situation fully, I will cry I know this much.........................I am an ugly crier and have often caught myself looking like I have a bad case of constipation whilst tears stream down my face. Friends have informed me that it is by far one of the worst days of your life when you have to leave a child at Uni. I have visions of never leaving and just moving to wherever she is just so I can see her every day..................................................The male teen is all for it and has secretly admitted to me that he cant even think about her going away. Who would of thought that he would of even noticed her absence. He doesn't want her room (as its bigger) even though she has offered it to him in exchange for his little room being done up for when she is home. He wants it left for her just as it is.............................................................................................

God, I am being a right moaner aren't I, sorry.............................Actually, I'm not sorry.

I'm bloody sad...................Cross..............Proud...............Excited...................Confused.........A mixture of emotions.

OK!!!! You get the picture, I am not going to bang on anymore......................................I will get through this that much I know, she is going to have the most fantastic time and as long as she is happy and safe then I am too.

I must warn you that I will be blogging from time to time about this whole process in great lengths which some of you might find helpful either for now or even in the future................................I am determined to take a comical approach to all this as its my way of dealing with it I think (not that you would know it from this post) and hope that I can gain advice and tips from anyone else who has already been through it.

This post was sponsored by Gin and tissues............xxxx

43 comments:

  1. Ah Sam, you moan, rant and cry all you bloody like! I am dreading these days already. A mixture of such emotions, so proud but at the same time so sad at this huge impending change in both her life and yours. I remember the day my mum dropped me at my university halls so well - I called her about an hour after she left only to find out that she was sat sobbing in a lay-by on the M3!! Your daughter will have a wonderful time, I did :) xxx

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    1. Thank you Sam, I am sure I will be exactly the same as your mum and sit and sob for hours. I am glad you enjoyed it though that gives me a lot of hope that she will be alright xxx

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  2. Time flies by doesn't it. We have another ten years to go before we get to this stage, but the last seven have gone by in a flash. I know it will be here in no time. Wishing you all lots of luck in the next chapter of life.

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    1. Thank you my lovely, I think I am going to need it xxx

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  3. Aww! Sending massive hugs!! I'm dreading my girls getting older....I was a mess when my eldest started secondary school in September....God knows what I'll be like when she's older. I don't want to think about it.
    Wishing you and your girl the best of luck x

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    1. Thank you for your hugs Kim, I will need all the luck I can find xxx

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  4. Aw how sweet that her brother is finding it hard too....it must be such a big thing for the whole family. I have a few years to go but my sympathies go out to you....

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    1. I was quite amazed that he was bothered, I guess as they get older they switch from siblings to friends xxx

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  5. Oh gosh, my heart feels your pain and I am a few years away from this. I am sooo not looking forward to my girls flying the nest.

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    1. Thankyou Anthea, at least you can refer back to my posts for guidance xxx

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  6. We are hurtling towards the same time, it's terrifying, thrilling, exciting and terrifying all over again! My eldest is such good company, I don't want him to grow up!!

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    1. Same here, she is my entertainment. The boys in my house are Xbox and sport mad so I think I may be quite bored xx

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  7. Oh my, I feel for you, I really do. I will be offering no help at all, just a shoulder to cry on and some sympathy every now and again. I will be exactly the same. And the worst part? I bet she will take it all completely in her stride! Boo hoo x x

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    1. A shoulder will be just fine my lovely. You are so right and is taking it all in her stride which makes me so proud xxx

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  8. Oh hun, I know how you feel. My twin daughters left for uni last year and I was sad to see them go. On the plus side, they have grown up a lot during the past year and they're now happy, confident young women. Doesn't make things any easier for their mum though! Good luck to you and your daughter for the coming year x

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    1. That's so nice to hear Izzie, I may be coming to you for some advice xxx

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  9. I'm dreading this - I'm already feeling the gap between parent and child widen as my nine-year-old starts using deodorant! I feel for you as I know I'll be no different.

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    1. I remember the say my son started using deodorant.......I have no idea why it was such a big thing but it was xxxxx

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  10. ugh... time flies! My eldest is 11 1/2 and I'm dreading this!

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    1. Time surely does fly doesn't it. I often think how have we got here xxx

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  11. Oh it is so hard. My boy is driving now, and driving (with his dad) millions of miles to look at open days. I cried reading your post. And my 7 year old can't wait for the room shift around so he can get his own room lol.

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    1. Its nice to hear someone else is going through it. I am looking for Mums/Dads who would like to Guest Post next year on the blog with their spin on Top Tips for starting Uni........I will DM you xxxxx

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  12. I absolutely feel every inch of your pain, frustration, trepidation, confusion... I only wish I was brave enough to blog about it! Thank you for sharing, I really appreciate it. :-)

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    1. Aww Lucy, you are so so welcome. It wasn't an easy post to write and I couldn't read it back as I kept bloody crying xxxx

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  13. Oh huni! I know already that I am going to be a big mess when Baby get to this stage. Virtual hugs xx

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  14. aww but do you know what... I have spoken to my brother more since he started uni, quality over quantity. I'm off for a visit next week, its going to cost me a Nando's!!

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    1. That is so so lovely, I think he will miss her a lot more than he will make out. I am so looking forward to the visits and dinners out xxx

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  15. Boo is only three and I know this will creep up on me in no time - the funny thing is I remember passing my driving test and getting my acceptance letters from universities as if it was yesterday... sadly it's not - pass the gin! :)

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    1. Grabbing the Gin and running. Thanks my lovely xxxx

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  16. I can imagine it all goes by all too quickly. Mine is three and I know that I'll blink and she'll be 18.

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    1. Enjoy every minute Adele, thanks for commenting xxx

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  17. Oh it must be awful - time seems to fly by as it is. *hugs*

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  18. Oh I am so with you! Mine has passed her driving test, the UCAS form has been submitted and we have been going to Uni open days- am so excited for her, but am going to be utterly bereft - esp as my youngest starts school next September too- I may as well buy shares in Kleenex!

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  19. Aw bless you, I hope she gets to read this post to see how much you care x

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  20. Oh I am dreading this as my eldest is 16 now and I know the driving thing will come around way too soon without even thinking about uni!!! I feel your pain, join you with a gin and offer you more tissues :)

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  21. She will be fine and you will get used to it... things must change so let's make it a good one.
    Keep it together and be happy, both of you :-)
    Good luck!

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  22. I suppose they will always be our babies, no matter how grown up they are. And we will always think of them as such.

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  23. I know the feeling my eldest is getting closer to this and it was the reason for my decision to go to uni this year too

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  24. You and the rest of the mothering world, Sam! I am SO going to feel the same, esp as we have only 2 kids, and the second is a boy, we're going to go through just the same in...hang on, EIGHT years only!!!! Blogging about it is a totally brilliant way of processing it. And blubbing is a great thing to do - it might wreck your make up but it does wonders for your heart and soul. Don't keep it all in. Sxx

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  25. I have two that have left home and are out in the big wide world and it is hard at first, but I know no different now. I am sure it will be different when I don't have little ones at home though - good luck to you all xxx

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  26. Oh im feeling your pain,pride,anxiety, excitement too my eldest is 16 and can't wait to start driving go to uni or join the forces ! Why do they have to grow up ! But on the plus side we should take comfort from the fact they are growing into independent , confident young adults x still won't stop me from crying buckets when these days come though x

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  27. I feel like this already with my two and they're only 5 and 3! Time definitely goes too fast, I would love to be able to pause moments from time to time. I hope you don't find the whole Uni thing too traumatic.

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